I’ve been in relationships for a number of different reasons.
• I was attracted to her
• I cherished the flow of conversation
• She made me laugh
But there’s one thing I’ve found to be the most powerful catalyst in a sustainable relationship…
A genuine fascination with how another person thinks, feels, and experiences the world.
I’m not just talking about romantic partnerships here. Friends. Family. Colleagues…One of the most basic human desires is the desire to be heard and seen. We want to feel important and interesting.
If we don’t, there’s no fire. There’s no passion. There’s no connection.
In building a relationship with another human, we can ask two things:
- Am I curious about this person?
- Do I feel like they are curious about me?