There are four kinds of people:
1) Those who don’t talk the talk, or walk the walk.
These are people who don’t show any sort of ambition for a better life. They are typically complacent and take no action to make a change.
2) Those who talk the talk, but don’t walk the walk.
We all know these people. They have an endless stream of plans and ideas. Then, a year later, they’re standing in the exact same place.
Many words; little action.
3) Those who talk the talk, and walk the walk.
These are ambitious and mobile people who make sure others know about what they’re doing. They are active on social media. They casually manage to bring up their successes in conversation.
4) Those who don’t talk the talk, but walk the walk.
These are the people who make great money, but never talk about work. They are in phenomenal shape, but never talk about working out. They do incredible things, but we never hear about them unless we ask them.
This is my favorite kind of person.
To be clear, I’m not saying you should never talk about the things going well in your life. I just think it’s better for those around you if you practice a habit of humility. It’s also better for yourself. Let me explain.
Studies show that telling people your plans and goals makes you less likely to actually accomplish them.
This is because the dopamine hit we get from telling people what we’re going to do makes it feel like we’ve already done it.
“I’m going to get in shape.”
“I’ll start reading way more.”
“I’m thinking about taking this awesome job opportunity.”
What are we looking for when we say stuff like this? Validation.
“Wow, yeah, that’s awesome. Yeah, you’d be really good at that…”
The recognition feels good. Sitting down each and every day to build stronger habits…That’s boring, and it’s hard.
It’s okay to tell people what you want to do. Friends. Mom. Coaches…
But keeping most of your ideas and actions to yourself proves that you’re doing it for you.
I have much to say about New Years resolutions. But if you have one this year, tell nobody. It will be ten times more rewarding when you accomplish it.
*Final note: If something about you is impressive, you don’t have to say anything. People will say it about you.