I used to shame myself for not sticking to a habit.
I saw it as “slipping up” or “breaking.”
Then I had James Clear clear (get it?) this up for me:
People say a bunch of different things about the timeline of habits.
They say things like, “It takes 21 days to build a habit,” or, “It takes an average of 66 days.”
But none of that is true.
The question behind that question is: “How long do I have to work until the action becomes automatic?”
And here’s the unfortunate truth: It takes a lifetime to build a habit.
We’re constantly breaking good habits and dabbling in bad ones. The work never stops.
It’s not about never breaking. It’s about how quickly we can get back to work and keep moving in the direction we want.