29 life tips on my 29th birthday

No, I don’t feel older. But I do feel wiser.

Here are some things I’ve learned in these 29 years. Hope you find one of them valuable.

1) Learn the names of employees at restaurants you frequent.

Find great servers, build relationships with them, and ask for them every time. It makes them feel validated to have a regular who prefers them, you can tip them well, and you know you’ll always be taken care of.

Ask them about their life. No one does that. 99% of customers don’t even know their name or they forget it after a night.

I went to the Chipotle near my apartment one to three times per week for two years. There was this quiet dude who was always working. His name is Mike and he was taking on extra shifts to take care of his mother who was sick.

Every time I went in there, I said, “What’s up Mike! How are you man? How’s your mom doing?” He’d give me updates and then pile two enormous piles of steak onto my burrito bowl, free of charge.

All it takes is spending five seconds to treat someone like a human being for them to want to go out of their way for you.

2) Ask 3 questions before stating your opinion.

When someone says something you disagree with, hold off on your counterarguments and rebuttals. It’s more important to ensure you know exactly where they’re coming from and why they believe what they believe.

Steelman their argument. Articulate their opinion so that they’re pleased with your summary.

This has three useful effects:

  1. It makes them less combative and defensive.
  2. You avoid arguing with things they don’t believe.
  3. It slows things down and gives you time to decide whether or not you even want to pursue a disagreement.

A simple rule to build this habit is to force yourself to ask three clarifying questions before giving your thoughts. So you believe x because y?

3) In a group of friends, ask: “What impresses you most about every other person?”

When you’re hanging out with two to five people, this is a fun and wholesome game to play. Everyone takes a turn going from person to person and saying what they most admire about them.

No matter how close you are to these people, you’re bound to hear and say things you’ve never heard or said before.

Everyone feels more connected and heartwarming conversation ensues.

4) When you feel the urge to send an emotional text, wait 24 hours.

No one’s ever been told to “stay awake on it.” Get a night’s sleep and see if you want to send that same text tomorrow. You probably won’t.

I’ve saved myself from sending countless passive-aggressive or annoyed one-liners and paragraphs. These kinds of messages never lead to fruitful solutions. They never make the recipient go, “Oh you’re frustrated? I’m so sorry. Here’s why I was wrong and I’ll never do it again.”

All context is lost over text. If it’s that important and the feelings are still there the next day, call the person.

Don’t hit “send” when you’re in a state. That state will pass, but the message can’t be unsent.

5) Have your phone out of sight when watching movies or TV.

Two screens are too many. Just sit and enjoy the story.

Especially if you’re watching with someone else. It’s meant to be a shared experience.

Too much dopamine-searching weakens attention span and makes us less present. Do what you’re doing. If you’re watching a film, watch the damn film.

6) Know what success actually is.

What we think it is: Someone who is really good at something, doing things we could never figure out.

What it actually is: Someone who worked on something for years and years until we all see their polished results.

Just keep at your thing and eventually you’ll be amazing at it.

7) Buy expensive noise-canceling headphones.

Use them for work, to listen to music or podcasts while you cook, or just to quiet the world around you.

It’s one of the best purchases you can make. I suggest Bose.

8) If a book is bringing you zero value or entertainment, just put it down.

I used to have this rule that I had to finish every book I started. Slogging through boring pages was torture. All that rule did was take weeks (sometimes months) away from me reading something I might’ve actually enjoyed.

If it felt like a chore or a battle to get through the last three chapters, stop reading it. There are too many phenomenal books out there for you to be wasting your time on one that sucks to you.

You might hate a book but love it five years from now. But do your present self a favor and spend time diving into writing that fills you up.

9) Status is fun, but it’s a mirage.

Money. Clout. Reputation.

These things aren’t meaningless. I love making great money. I love building relationships with people who have wealth and power.

But these things will never complete us.

How many times do we have to hear rich and famous celebrities tell us being rich and famous does nothing for our happiness and fulfillment? Status can be fun but it will never be the final piece of the puzzle.

If your basic needs are met, if you’re healthy, and if you have loving relationships…and you’re still waiting on more status or success to be fulfilled, you will remain empty.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to make more money or wanting a more interesting life. But real fulfillment comes from spending quality time with great friends and family, learning hard and rewarding skills, and being a grateful and healthy human being.

10) If you hate cooking, pick an easy and healthy meal to make every day.

It doesn’t have to be every day. Most days will do.

I love cooking…for other people. But when I’m home alone, I feel zero motivation to experiment or spend more than 20 minutes preparing a meal for myself. I just don’t care.

So, rather than wishing for more invisible willpower, I just choose a simple and nutritious meal I could make basically every day.

For a while, it was scrambled eggs with black beans and salsa. Protein. Carbs. Tasty.

Sometimes I’d use peri sauce instead of salsa. Sometimes I’d cook sausage instead of beans. Make it flexible and repeatable. This removes the headache of figuring out what to eat for at least one meal per day.

11) Frequently ask, “If I knew I’d die 10 years from now, how would I be living my life differently?”

Then do those things.

12) Set up regular hangouts centered around activities.

An easy way to consistently spend quality time with people and get out of the house.

Love knitting, board games, or walking? Find a friend or a group of people who enjoy it too. Then pick a day to regularly meet with them and do that thing.

Some examples from my life:

Thursday morning swims with a bestie.
Tuesday night chess club.
Sunday rock climbing with the bros.
Biweekly phone calls with my friend living in Rwanda.

We expect our relationships to take care of themselves. Proactively scheduling things is a lovely and efficient way to ensure we actually tend to them.

13) Run errands without your phone.

When was the last time you left the house without your phone?

Next time you have stuff to do out and about, leave the black rectangle at home. You won’t be on-call. You’ll have no choice but to be present and engaged with your surroundings. You’re more likely to spark conversation with strangers.

Feel the peace that comes from spending an hour or two completely unreachable and offline. Nothing to compulsively check. Nothing to experience other than the world around you.

14) Write letters, not cards, as gifts.

Giving a $5 card with a sentence on it is such a common tradition and it has always seemed odd to me.

People do it for “the thought.” But there are so many other, more personal and meaningful ways, to express that sentiment. Namely, taking 5-10 minutes to write a letter.

Outline plainly what this person means to you, what you love and appreciate about them, and how they’ve helped you and made your life better. Then read it to them.

It doesn’t matter if this is on printer paper or on a notecard. It’ll mean so much more to them than a funny card with your signature on it. They’ll remember how it made them feel for years.

15) No one is thinking about you as much as you are.

From your perspective, you’re the main character in the movie. But for everyone else, you’re a supporting character at best and a background extra to most.

Stop obsessing over everything you do and say. Not a single person is thinking about you even 1/10th as much as you are. They’re just worried about being the main characters in their movies.

Go to the gym. Share your opinions. Apologize and improve when you make mistakes and get feedback.

Because no one cares as much as you do.

16) Take month-long breaks from booze and sugar.

Pick a month. I typically do January and October.

You’ll get excellent sleep, eat better, and have more energy and willpower.

Can’t do this? You might have a problem.

It’s crucial to prove to yourself you don’t need something like alcohol to have fun, be fun, or live an interesting life.

17) Keep a list of your friends’ goals.

What they’re working on. What they want most. Their latest wins.

Check in on them and see how these things are going. It takes minimal time on your end and they’ll feel seen and supported.

18) When you’re feeling stuck, answer these 3 questions:

  1. What do you want most right now?
  2. What’s in the way of that?
  3. What’s step 1?

19) No one has ever been rejected into a coma or black hole.

The fear of being rejected is 100x worse than actually being rejected.

Ask that person out. Give that sales pitch. Ask for help.

The absolute worst thing that can happen is they say no. Now you’ve gone from not having that thing to not having that thing. You’ve lost nothing.

20) They’re not texting you back because…

They don’t want to.

People who are excited to converse and engage with us will prove it by continuing to converse and engage with us.

Short texts. No response. Never calling back.

These don’t necessarily mean this person hates you. You’re just not a priority to them right now. That’s okay. It doesn’t make them bad people. It just means you shouldn’t keep exhausting yourself to keep the conversation alive.

The number of times in high school and college I kept texting a girl who clearly wasn’t interested in me…I thought, Maybe if I just send the right text, if I just send the perfect joke…she’ll want to get with me.

Never happened. People who want to talk to you will talk to you. If they put in zero effort, stop being needy and move on.

21) The 10/80/10 rule.

10% of people will dislike you no matter what.

10% of people will love you no matter what.

The other 80% will decide based on how skilled you are, how fun you are, and how delightful you are to talk to.

22) Be an ESPN sportscaster.

Bring up the accomplishments and highlights of your friends and partners. Hype them up. Show them off. Congratulate them in front of other people and on your own.

“Look at this! Let’s see that again! Isn’t that incredible?”

They may seem embarrassed but underneath that, they’ll feel super supported and respected.

23) Never set a secret expectation for someone.

If you want something from someone, tell them. No matter how overt or passive-aggressive you are, they can’t read your mind.

Quiet expectations are a one-way road to resentment, disappointment, and unspoken tension.

Be clear and direct about what you want.

24) Be on time.

It’s the easiest way to show respect for others and yourself. It also relieves the constant burden of feeling rushed and frantic.

Being the person who’s always late to things is a childish reputation to have.

25) Download ‘News Feed Eradicator.’

Hate scrolling on Facebook but don’t want to delete it?

Download this browser extension. It hides your Facebook news feed. No more being hypnotized by the algorithm.

26) Keep a list of your biggest insights.

Realizations, discoveries, mindset shifts. What have you changed your mind about lately?

It’s like finding old photos of who you were and what you were working on in the past.

27) Tell your friends “I love you.”

Especially guys. You’ll wish you said it more when you die.

28) Under 50 and don’t like what you look like shirtless? Prioritize exercise and diet.

It’ll only get harder. Now’s the time.

Hire a trainer. Get someone to help you figure out what to eat.

Give yourself more energy, confidence, and brain power by taking care of your body. If you were responsible for taking care of someone else’s body, would you fill it with sugar, simple carbs, and processed foods? Would you make sure that that body was never active?

Be kind to your future self and take care of your present self.

29) The quickest way to earn someone’s respect is to be able to take a joke.

There’s a difference between bullying and poking fun.

If someone is messing around with you, laugh. Join in on the joke.

This shows people you don’t take yourself so seriously and that you’re secure with yourself. I struggled to take jokes when I was younger because I was wildly insecure. Every jab felt like a missile.

Now, I make fun of myself more than anyone else. Life’s short. Be less serious and more silly. You’re no God.

Final thoughts:

Hope you enjoyed some of these. Hope you disagreed with some of them. Email me and let me know what you think.

See you next year for my 30th!

How to Not Die Alone (book review)

Logan Ury's book How to Not Die Alone
(from loganury.com)

“Dating is harder today than ever before. We define our own identities, unlike our ancestors whose lives were defined by their communities. We have thousands of options at our fingertips, which makes us question our decisions. We’re uncomfortable making big decisions. Social media makes us believe that everyone else is in happier, healthier relationships than we are. We don’t have relationship role models. We’re bombarded with messaging that we have to get this right, and that the ‘right’ answer exists at all.”

Logan Ury is a data scientist at Hinge and this book is her Magnum Opus. It’s designed as an actionable and practical guidebook for dating better and dating often.

With years of data research and personal stories from her dating coaching clients, Logan breaks down how single people often get in their own way…starting with the three dating tendencies:

1. Romanticizer: You want the soul mate, the happily ever after—the whole fairytale. You love love. You believe you are single because you haven’t met the right person yet. Your motto: It’ll happen when it’s meant to happen.

2. Maximizer: You love doing research, exploring all of your options, turning over every stone until you’re confident you’ve found the right one. You make decisions carefully. And you want to be 100 percent certain about something before you make your choice. Your motto: Why settle?

3. Hesitater: You don’t think you’re ready for dating because you’re not the person you want to be yet. You hold yourself to a high standard. You want to feel completely ready before you start a new project; the same goes for dating. Your motto: I’ll wait until I’m a catch.

Here are some of my biggest takeaways…

• seek Life Partners: people trustworthy and reliable, and who will stay with you for the long haul; avoid Prom Dates: individuals fun in the short term, but who ultimately let you down

• superficial qualities like looks or money matter less in long-term relationship success than people think they do—lust fades and people adapt to their circumstances, the same is true for shared hobbies and similar personalities; what to look for in a Life Partner: emotional stability and kindness, loyalty, growth mindset, personality that brings out the best of you, skills to fight well, ability to make hard decisions with you

• in the end, a relationship is about what happens when you two are together—focus on who you’re being when this person is around, you can even ask your close friends, “What am I like when you see me with my partner?”

• the Monet Effect: when we see only a rough sketch of someone, our brains (hoping for a great outcome), fill in the gaps with flattering details—then when we discover their inevitable flaws they seem worse than they actually are…then we look for something better, feeling like the grass is always greener just over the horizon

• dating apps cause us to focus on the wrong things—we value what gets measured and apps can only measure superficial traits, so they exacerbate our shallowness; apps overwhelm us with choices and make us indecisive, they create a habit of relation-shopping: comparing and contrasting people as if they’re potential purchases

• to meet more people in real life: go to more events, get set up by friends and family, and build the habit of connecting with strangers out and about

• 10 steps to better dates:

  1. shift your mindset with a pre-date ritual
  2. choose the time/date of the date thoughtfully
  3. opt for a creative activity
  4. show your work, let your date know how much effort you put into the date
  5. play
  6. skip the small talk
  7. be interested, not interesting
  8. limit phone use, keep it out of sight
  9. end on a high note
  10. use the post-date 8 to shift to the experimental mindset

• the post-date 8 questions:

  1. what side of me did they bring out?
  2. how did my body feel during the date?
  3. do I feel more energized or drained than before the date?
  4. is there something about them I’m curious about?
  5. did they make me laugh?
  6. did I feel heard?
  7. did I feel attractive in their presence?
  8. did I feel captivated, bored, or something in between?

• f*ck the spark—instant fireworks is not a sign that this relationship will be happy and healthy, it could actually distract you from red flags

Every single person should read this book. Every person in a relationship should read this book so they can gift it to their single friends. ❤️

I read 67 books in 2022—Why I’m never doing that again

A library full of books

I like to read. I’m a sucker for page-turning novels, self-improvement books, and fantasy comics.

Given that, it surprises people when I say I never read a book from start to finish until my sophomore year of college.

Up until that point, I had used Sparknotes or had bullshitted my way through book reports and assignments. I’m a role model to kids across the nation.

Cut to: today, where I read practically every day—morning and evening. I fly through audiobooks. I take pages of digital notes while making my way through nonfiction tomes.

In 2020, I read 63 books. In 2021, I read 70. And this past year, with a goal to read 80, I finished…67.

Why the decline? Because I realized toward the end of the year that my goal was kind of stupid.

Maybe stupid is too harsh a word. We’ll say the result I was aiming for was misguided.

Why did I want to read 80 books? To beat my previous record? To commit even more to my discipline and habits?


It was just to say I read 80 books.

It feels good to log what I read on GoodReads. And that’s the problem. I’ve been craving some sort of status. Deep down, I want to be seen as an intellectual who’s well-read. You know, the kind of guy who reads 80 books in a year.

But I can’t tell you what I got from 75% of the books I finished last year.

Finishing a book and understanding its insights are two separate things. I was just going for notches on my literary bedpost.

Sprinting through audiobooks at 3x speed. Whizzing through nonfiction without taking notes or stopping for any reflection. These are great ways to absorb nothing.

There’s an awful high school superlative: “Talks the most; says the least.” Well these past few years, I’ve been going for, “Reads the most; learns the least.”

I’ve obviously learned a lot. But only from a small amount of the things I’ve actually read. So it begs the question…

Would you rather read 50 books this year that give you little to nothing, or read 2 books this year that deeply impact your life?

I’m making some changes so I can lean into the latter option. From now on, I…

  1. must take digital notes for each nonfiction book I read
  2. have to keep a list of insights or changes I’ll make with each read (i.e. a ‘How Will I Use This’ list)
  3. lowered my goal to only read 52 books this year

A book a week. Still quite a lot for some people I imagine. The average for American men is 8.5 books read in a year (yes ladies, I’m single).

It’s time to slow down and focus on depth, not breadth.

If you want to learn how to read more books, check out my previous blog.

If you want to follow me on GoodReads, then go do so you silly, silly goose.

My 5 favorite books in 2022

Stacks of books in an old library

Here they are…

1) Models: Attract Women Through Honesty

By Mark Manson (Goodreads link).

This book represents the newer, more wholesome era of dating advice. A decade or two ago, men had pickup artistry: scripts and tactics to woo more women and have more sex.

But that’s all super narcissistic. Pickup artistry sees women as prizes and status symbols—not living, breathing human beings with lives and values of their own.

I’ve been a single guy most of my life. I’m confident, I’m extroverted, and I consider myself to be reasonably successful. And the act of putting myself out there with women is almost always a terrifying one.

In Models, Mark argues that the key to attracting more women has nothing to do with pickup lines or suave tricks. Instead, it’s all about becoming the best version of yourself as a man. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not; lean into your strengths and create a life that fulfills you. That’s what people find attractive.

A simple example of this is not texting back right away. We shouldn’t wait hours to respond to pretend to be busy. We should have an active life so we’re genuinely not always available.

This all sounds like common sense now, but being more attractive can really be boiled down to:

  • working out
  • having hobbies outside of work
  • being excited by life
  • flirting with physical touch and teasing
  • never being needy
  • being willing to say no and stand up for your values
  • risking rejection
  • smiling and laughing more
  • asking curious questions

I’ve since used many of the principles in this book and have noticed way more fluidity in my flirting and conversations with women.

2) Becoming

By Michelle Obama (Goodreads link).

It’s really easy for me to see a well-known figure—an actor, athlete, or politician—and totally forget they’re human beings. They had a childhood. They have fears and insecurities. They want to raise healthy children. They want to be valuable.

Michelle’s storytelling abilities reminded me of Matthew McConaughey’s in his memoir Greenlights. Both of them make you feel like you’re at the dinner table or around a campfire listening to them talk about their lives.

Some of my friends know this, but I’m not a black woman who was raised in South Side Chicago. Despite that, I felt much more connected to Michelle’s story than Matthew’s.

Why? I love Matthew McConaughey but he has almost an unrelatable level of confidence.

My point is: Michelle spends every chapter being vulnerable. Sharing mistakes, frustrations, and anxieties. And being vulnerable is the only true way for others to relate.

When she and the Queen of England were complaining about their sore feet at an event. When she was trying to get Barack to quit smoking. When she was in her twenties and didn’t know what she wanted to be when she grew up. When her best friend died. When everything she wore made headlines. When she and her daughter tried to giddily sneak out of the White House.

I saw her. I saw these things happening. I laughed when she marveled at the little family moments. I cried when she was devastated.

One of the last sentences in this flawless memoir sums it up perfectly:

“I’m an ordinary person who found herself on an extraordinary journey.”

What a journey it was.

3) How to Quit Porn

By Brett McKay (Goodreads link).

Porn is wild. It’s something most people consume but don’t talk about.

I haven’t watched it in a long time because of the noticeable physical and psychological consequences. This book has been a huge help in breaking down the science of why we crave porn and how we can remove the habit from our lives.

(Since the vast majority of pornography is made for heterosexual males, it’s written for that audience; but it’s still an informative and fascinating read regardless of demographic.)

A teenager with an iPhone today will see more naked, beautiful women in 60 seconds than a man 100 years ago would see in his lifetime. Our brains aren’t evolved to handle that level of stimuli.

This dopamine hit from porn creates a plethora of issues:

  • It creates unrealistic body standards for women.
  • Watching a ton of it can make it difficult or impossible to get aroused without it.
  • Men often feel deep shame immediately after.
  • Watching porn reduces willpower, energy levels, and motivation.

The book describes porn as “sexual junk food.” It shouldn’t be seen as this shameful, disgusting addiction. That gives it too much power.

But on the whole, it is a net negative for most guys. Like any habit, this one can be broken. And since I broke it, I’ve experienced nothing but clear benefits.

(For anyone who wants to learn more about what porn does to the male brain, but doesn’t want to read this book, I’d recommend this short miniseries.)

4) Invincible

By Robert Kirkman (Goodreads link).

An action-packed comicbook series that they turned into a show. I tore through this one.

It’s like many other superhero comics but with murder, deep character development, and intricate world-building. It handles romance, betrayal, parenting, political corruption, friendship, teenage angst, and many other mature themes. All while being a funny and captivating page-turner.

5) Building a Second Brain: A Proven Method to Organize Your Digital Life and Unlock Your Creative Potential

By Tiago Forte (Goodreads link).

If this was the only book I read this year, it would be worth it.

Tied with Getting Things Done, Tiago’s Second Brain system has easily had the most impact on my productivity and workflow.

The idea is simple: we’re working with stone-age programming in a hyper-modern world. Our brains haven’t evolved much in the last 100,000 years. We still crave carbs, dopamine, and sex all the same.

But now that we have infinite access to all the information in the world, we expect our meat machines to catch up. But they can’t.

We’re not meant to remember every single thing that happens to us, every task we have to complete, or every idea we’ve ever had.

Enter: a Second Brain.

This simple personal knowledge management organizes anything you read, listen to, or think of. It categorizes things based on the projects you’re working on—whether it be finishing an essay, making a presentation, or redecorating the living room.

This book can be used as a step-by-step workbook. And I felt the result immediately: a feeling of decluttered peace. It’s also made writing blogs and making YouTube videos much easier.

I’d recommend this book to anyone who wants to take control of their digital lives—especially creatives or entrepreneurs.


I’m reading 80 books this year—Why I don’t recommend it

A bookshelf stacked with books of all kinds

I read 64 books in 2020. Last year, I read 70.

So naturally, I stretched the goal this year and set my GoodReads challenge to 80 books.

I’m hitting a point of diminishing returns. Let me explain.

I love reading. It calms me down and makes me feel like I’m entering another person’s mind while applying lessons to my own life. I also keep an extensive collection of notes with each book I read.

But 80 books is a lot. For the first time in my life, it feels like I’m reading to meet a quota instead of reading because I’m feeling pulled to. (I never read a single book in school.)

Not that that’s always a bad thing. I don’t always want to go to the gym but I force myself to go three times a week. That’s a number I have to hit because I know it’s good for me.

But the difference with reading books has been my lack of retention. I looked through my 2022 GoodReads list the other day. There were at least three books I didn’t remember reading at all.

I’ve been flying through audiobooks. If I don’t take notes, then within a week or two, all that I learn has left my mind. And even when I do take notes, it’s not like I’m reviewing what I capture every week.

Would you rather read 50 books you forget about or 5 books that change your life?

My point is: “I read 80 books this year” sounds sexy. It sounds impressive. It sounds like something you tell your friend who doesn’t read to make yourself feel big.

But I won’t be doing it again. I’m sacrificing enjoyment for quantity. It looks cool on the outside and feels grey on the inside. It’s like a gorgeous Instagram influencer who’s severely depressed. (Does that make sense? I’m not depressed.)

Goals can be great. But we have to know why we’re pursuing them. “Because it sounds impressive” is a terrible reason.


Yesterday, I posted a blog about some burnout I’m feeling.

I got nine different texts from people asking if I was okay or offering to reschedule plans this week.

Every few months, I check the analytics of this blog. But I often forget that people actually read it.

I just wanted to say thank you.

Thank you for spending a minute with me each morning. Thank you for your support.

It’s an honor! 💙

The Hustle

One of my 2022 goals is to expand my knowledge when it comes to the world of tech, startups, climate, and business.

This newsletter may be my favorite content I’ve ever subscribed to.

It’s free, it’s concise, and it’s wildly entertaining and informative.

I refuse to be a 40-year old who doesn’t know anything about the latest technology. If I did nothing but read The Hustle each week between now and then, I’ll be in great shape.

I read 70 books in 2021—Here’s how

A pile of books on the floor

This blog won’t be much different than the one I wrote last year on how I read 64 books in 2020. Well…the difference is about six books.

In my coaching conversations, I’ve heard many people say they want to work on their reading habit.

Let’s start with that last word.

1) I make a habit out of it. (i.e. I read every day.)

Even if it’s just two pages.

In a session yesterday, my client said, “.1 is more than 0.”

Something is better than nothing. Let’s put that into perspective.

If we read 10 pages a day, every day for a year, that’s 3,650 pages.

That means we could read Infinite Jest, Moby Dick, five 200-page novels, five 100-page stories…and still have 408 pages left.

I like reading for 10-30 minutes as part of my morning routine. Sometimes I’ll read as I wind down before bed.

Not everybody has the luxury of working for themselves like I do. People have jobs and families. But I find it hard to believe a person never has ten minutes to themselves for a bit of reading.

In short, it’s about consistency, not speed. I’m a wildly slow reader. Reading practically every day compensates for that.

2) I don’t read shit I don’t like.

If continuing to read something feels more like a chore or an obligation, I put it down.

I’m not saying other people should do this. I have friends who feel accomplished when they stick with dense and challenging reads all the way through. That’s great.

But personally, that’s not why I read. I want to enjoy myself. I’m not in school anymore and I’m not looking to challenge my brain. I want to be entertained, to be intrigued, and to learn things I can use in the real world.

Time reading something I don’t like is time away from something I could possibly love.

3) I keep book notes.

Dillan Taylor's book notes

In my Notes app, I keep simple, bulleted takeaways from what I read.

I try to put them in my own words to make it easier for me to remember and apply them.

I’m not certain this allows me to read more, but it definitely makes me feel more engaged with what I’m reading. It also allows me to go back a year from now and revisit what I got out of a book.

4) I log what I read on GoodReads.

To anyone who cares about a reading habit, I strongly encourage making a GoodReads account.

There, one can…

• set reading goals
• see what their friends are reading/have read
• get recommended new books
• keep track of everything they’ve read

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The most important two things are to read consistently and to enjoy it.

Reading because it’s “what someone should do” feels dull and pointless.

I got to enter many different worlds this year. Here’s to 70 more in 2022!

Turkey Day

It’s 4:56am.

Happy Thanksgiving!

I’m thankful for you, reader. If you’ve ever spent ten seconds reading (or hating) my stuff…

Thank you.

Please enjoy your holiday. 😊

The Madness of Crowds

A crowd protesting

I just finished Douglas Murray’s book The Madness of Crowds. Here’s my review.

It’s one of the most important books I’ve ever read.

I’m not a super political person, but whenever people ask me where I stand politically (which is an impossibly loaded question), I say:

“My dad thinks I’m a Communist and my friends think I’m a Trump supporter.”
(Neither are true.)

I have a lot of problems with ‘the Left’: social justice warriors, woke culture, etc. Despite being well-intentioned and fighting for seemingly just causes…I find most of what the loudest voices are doing and saying are in fact shoving us backward, not progressing us forward.

Unfortunately, many of the books or videos I’ve seen with this same opinion have the vibe of: Leftists and liberals are brats and snowflakes and here’s more detail on how stupid they are.

This book was not that.

Another reviewer of this book summed it up well:

“Murray is basically saying ‘Look at this insanity. This is going too far. And here are strange and startling examples why.'”

Douglas gives us an articulate, elegant, and well-sourced reminder that the social issues we’re facing today are complex and incomplete. The rules are not yet solidified or agreed upon, yet the mobs on Twitter and on college campuses are acting as if these rules should be common sense at this point.

I’d recommend this book to anyone who believes in social equality and liberty, but who doesn’t think shaming, canceling, or silencing is the best way to achieve that.

I certainly don’t.


My work playlist

When I’m working, studying, or reading, here’s my playlist I listen to.

It’s perfect for deep work and getting in the zone.

3 days of little tips (pt. 1)

Keep a list of your favorite quotes in your phone.

I’ve had one since 2016 and it’s lovely to go back and see hilarious things my friends said and insightful quotes I read from my favorite books.


I just finished reading Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most by Greg McKeown.

It was the perfect sequel to the book that changed my life last year: Essentialism—The Disciplined Pursuit of Less.

This book challenges the notion that anything important or valuable has to be hard work.

Hard work is lovely, but it’s wildly beneficial to us if we stop and ask: “What would it look like if this were easy?”

I’m a slow reader…and I flew through this in two days because I enjoyed it so much.

My biggest takeaways:

• Burnout is not a badge of honor.

• The more you complain, the more you have to complain about. The more grateful you are, the more you have to be grateful for.

• When you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have. When you focus on what you have, you get what you lack.

• Establish clear conditions for what ‘done’ means, then stop.

• There is no mastery without making mistakes. And there is no learning without the courage to be rubbish.

The E-Myth

I just finished The E-Myth Revisited by Michael Gerber.

It was a super helpful, albeit cheesy book on running a business.

Here are my two biggest takeaways:

1) Being a Technician—i.e. being skilled at your craft/service—does not qualify you to be a business owner.

Great bakers, coaches, or carpenters don’t necessarily make folks who are great at running bakeries, practices, or home remodeling companies. Running the back end of a business is a completely different ball game.

In short, there’s a huge difference between working in your business and working on your business.

2) Your business is not your life; it should fuel your life.

I needed to hear this.

For the past year, I’ve been growing my first ever business and have become more and more passionate about it as it grows each month. Thinking about my business—creating clients, scheduling calls, inviting people to coaching sessions….I would be focusing on this stuff almost 24/7.

I wore that like a badge of honor, but I had to be reminded that that wasn’t my life. My life is my friends, my family, my health. My life is the freedom I enjoy with the people I love. I want my work to give me more freedom, not chip away at it.

If anyone owns any kind of business, or is at least considering it (no matter how big or small), I would consider this book mandatory reading.

Write like a motherfucker

A person writing with pen and paper

Last night, I finished another chapter of Cheryl Strayed’s Tiny Beautiful Things. It was my favorite one yet.

The book consists of captivating Dear Sugar columns; people write in asking for her advice and she tells gripping, emotional stories and gives life-changing insights.

The chapter I read before bed last night was called “Write Like a Motherfucker.” In it, a woman wrote in looking for much needed motivation. She’s a writer who doesn’t write. She’s often paralyzed by her depression.

She writes:

“I’m…a high-functioning head case, one who jokes enough that most people don’t know the truth. The truth: I am sick with panic that I cannot—will not —override my limitations, insecurities, jealousies, and ineptitude, to write well, with intelligence and heart and lengthiness. And I fear that even if I do manage to write, that the stories I write will be disregarded and mocked.”

What powerful vulnerability. And what a concrete example of someone who wants something but believes there’s something in the way.

To be clear, I am NOT downplaying the role of mental health here. I love that Cheryl opens by recommending professional help to this woman. The power of not having the energy to do what we want to do is stark.

But the reason I love this chapter so much is because Cheryl throws down some masterful tough love.

The phrase tough love often gets a bad rep. People tend to get distracted by the first part, tough: possibly unpleasant, firm, or uncomfortable…that they forget about the second part entirely, love: coming from a place of “I care about you and your wellbeing.”

I believe in accepting others for who they are and showing consistent compassion to ourselves and those around us. But I also believe in challenging ourselves and those around us for the sake of pushing humans to be better.

Cheryl hits her with this hammer:

“The most fascinating thing to me about your letter is that buried beneath all the anxiety and sorrow and fear and self-loathing, there’s arrogance at its core. It presumes you should be successful at twenty-six, when really it takes most writers so much longer to get there.”

Wow. No pity party here.

I can only imagine how much this stung to read. But Cheryl does a fantastic job in relating her own experiences and assuring her that this all comes from a place of love and care. Plus, the point is not: Does this sting? The point is: Is this true and is this useful?

Going through mental chaos is God damn difficult. In many cases, it can be debilitating. But unfortunately, that doesn’t remove the work that needs to be done.

Cheryl describes humility: not being up too high or down too low, but on the ground level. She writes:

“We get the work done on the ground level. And the kindest thing I can do for you is to tell you to get your ass on the floor. I know it’s hard to write, darling. But it’s harder not to. The only way you’ll find out if you “have it in you” is to get to work and see if you do. The only way to override your “limitations, insecurities, jealousies, and ineptitude” is to produce. You have limitations. You are in some ways inept. This is true of every writer, and it’s especially true of writers who are twenty-six. You will feel insecure and jealous. How much power you give those feelings is entirely up to you.”

The negative feelings we experience are absolutely valid. But the work still needs to be done. It’s up to us to continue to show up and do it.

“Writing is hard for every last one of us—straight white men included. Coal mining is harder. Do you think miners stand around all day talking about how hard it is to mine for coal? They do not. They simply dig…

You need to do the same, dear sweet arrogant beautiful crazy talented tortured rising star glowbug.

So write…Not like a girl. Not like a boy. Write like a motherfucker.”

(Strayed, Cheryl. Tiny Beautiful Things (p. 60). Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.)

How to get people to read your stuff

A man playing basketball

Here are all the things I’m proud of at the moment:

• The strength of my relationships
• My fitness
• My coaching business
• The fact that I know at least basic martial arts skills
• My intermediate chess abililites
• This blog
• My ability to listen to, connect with, and coach other human beings

What do they all have in common?

They’ve taken a fuck-ton of time (in metric units).

The cliche goes:

“It’s only taken me ten years to become an over-night success.”

Perhaps there are freaks of nature who are naturally good at the things they do. Good for them. But for the other 99% of us, getting great at the things we care about will take countless repetitions.

I’ve been writing this blog every day since October 2019. Those first pieces make me cringe. I had no idea how to string ideas together and I used big words to sound more academic. And for months, each blog was averaging two readers: myself and my super supportive friend. (Thanks Grace!)

Now, there are hundreds of folks tuning in each week and I couldn’t be more grateful. But that hasn’t happened because I’ve found the perfect way to market my stuff or because I’ve shoved it in the faces of enough people.

It’s like that because I’ve sat down each morning and typed out my thoughts. Eventually, I got a little better at writing. My average of two readers went up to three. Then four. And so on…

I’m always skeptical when I see ads like, “Get 100x MORE followers in ONE month!!”

Fuck off.

Maybe methods like that exist, maybe they don’t. I personally have zero interest.

The only thing I care about is consistently showing up to do the work.

This leads to improvement, which leads to higher quality, which leads to more value, which leads to more people interested, which leads to improvement, and on and on it goes…..

The person you should be like

A blooming flower in a field

Until I was about 25, I thought relentlessly, Who should I be like?

I looked to successful friends, role models, even characters in movies or plays.

When I was in high school, I would listen to the music my friends liked even though I didn’t really enjoy it.

Last year, in trying to make YouTube videos on self-improvement, I tried my best to copy my favorite filmmakers who made the same content.

After starting my own business, I read countless business and self-help books to figure out who I should emulate to become prosperous.

In my work, my relationships, and my creative endeavors…I’ve spent an ungodly amount of time asking that same throbbing question…

Who should I be like?

As we get older, one of the frustrating (and uplifting) things we realize is that cliches are cliches for a reason: They remain true.

We can turn to one of the top five cliches to answer this uncomfortable question:

Be like you.

In a world of seven billion humans, there is only one person on the planet who has the exact same combination of interests, strengths, and perceptions as you have. And it’s…me.

Just kidding. It’s you.

Of course, it’s necessary to be influenced by others. Soak in ideas and motivation from the people you respect. There’s always something to learn from everyone.

But only you can take what you learn and make it totally your own.

I’ve written about 1000 blog posts on this site you’re reading. There’s not a single word I haven’t taken from something else.

My mom and teachers taught me how to read and write.

All my ideas have come from experiencing the outside world—conversations with friends, stories, and lessons I’ve learned and pondered over.

But they’ve made it onto this screen because they’ve traveled through the filter that is my brain and then out of my fingertips and onto the keyboard.

Thus making them mine.

The same is true for everything you do and say.

What do you value and cherish? What excites you? What do you love?

Do that. Do it all the time. Get really fucking good at whatever you hold dear to your heart.

Because that’s you.

When you do that, you don’t have to be like anyone else. You can be the coolest person on earth.


Don’t read books you hate

Beautiful dark flowers

For years, I was convinced I had terrible taste.

I hated:

• Poetry
• Drinking more than one cup of coffee
• Jazz
• Classic novels
• Card games

I remember forcing myself to listen to weird hipster music and painfully spending hours reading books I wasn’t enjoying. All the while thinking, You like this, you’re enjoying this.

Fuck that.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t dig these things. I’m just saying that I don’t.

You should always keep an open mind and be willing to experience new stuff, but you can’t force yourself to like something.

It doesn’t matter how much your friend loves this movie. If it doesn’t resonate with you then it doesn’t resonate with you. No amount of explanation or argument on their part will bring you much closer to the love that they feel for it.

A good analogy for this is when I tell people I hate smoking weed—it makes me insecure and diminishes my social skills.

I always get the same response from marijuana advocates (Jesus I sound like a 60-year-old Republican):

You just need to find the right strain.

Yes. I need to keep experimenting with this thing that makes me feel miserable until I like it.


I could just do a little bit once in a blue moon to the extent to which I’m comfortable.


It took me until I was 26 to come to terms with the fact that I simply don’t enjoy most classic novels. That’s okay.

I pick one up from time to time. But I never pressure myself to enjoy it (or even to finish it).

When I was in high school, I would literally play music my friends liked and I hated because I didn’t want to admit that my favorite bands were Blink-182 and Green Day.

Again, fuck that.

Life is too short to read books you hate.

You can be open minded and challenge yourself, but there’s no need to torture yourself with something just because other people love it.

Put on some American Idiot. Open your Harry Potter books. And don’t apologize for the things you enjoy.

I don’t believe in guilty pleasures. If you fucking like something, like it.

Dave Grohl

I read 64 books in 2020. Here’s how.

Girl reading a book on the beach

2020 was a chaotic year for too many people.

As strange as it sounds, I was extremely lucky enough to take advantages from the lockdowns. I quit my full-time job and started two businesses. I worked on passion projects. And among many other incredibly useful habits, I solidified my routine of reading.

I will surely write a blog about my favorite books from the year, but in the meantime…

Here are the specific tips and tricks I used to read over a book a week:

1) Read every day.

Person at desk reading a book

I don’t read particularly fast. You don’t have to if you read every single day.

The easiest way to do this is to make a routine of it. Make it part of your morning. Read a chapter as you sip your coffee. Read a chapter as you wind down for bed. Do both if you can.

There were many days where all I read was one chapter of Harry Potter. That’s about 20 pages. 20 pages every day for a year is 7300 pages. That’s like reading Infinite Jest 6 times and Moby Dick once.

Everyone has different schedules. I’m lucky to structure my own days so I give myself plenty of time to read. But all you need is 10 minutes a day and you’ll be reading way more than the average American.

2) Read what you enjoy.

Little boy reading with his parent

This might sound like elementary advice. But you’d be surprised how many people approach reading as some sort of chore–traumatized by school assignments and essays.

I had a coaching client ask me to help him build a reading habit. He wanted to dive into all these business and personal development books, but he hated reading.

He kept talking about willpower and grit. I asked him, “Well, what do you enjoy reading?”

He said, “Honestly, my guilty pleasure is the Divergent series. I’ve read through them like 4 times. I love all the blockbusters. Harry Potter. Hunger Games...”

“Great,” I said. “We’ll start there.”

He was confused. He didn’t want to waste time reading simply for pleasure.

But if reading isn’t a part of your daily life, and you want it to be, then you have to attack the habit first, then the content.

Before worrying about best sales tactics or goal-setting techniques, we spent two months getting him used to just sitting down each and every day, and reading at least 10 pages of Lemony Snicket…or whatever he wanted.

This made it as easy as possible to build the habit. He looked forward to it. It wasn’t a chore. Then, slowly but surely, he replaced a few reading sessions with some of the denser books he wanted to read. After two months, he was reading for both work and pleasure every single day.

If you’re dreading what you read, you’ll never make a habit out of it. Turn your guilty pleasures into pleasures and embrace them.

3) Listen to audiobooks.

Man listening to an audiobook

I fought this for the longest time. Books on audio just didn’t do it for me. I’m not exactly sure what flipped the switch but when it did, I was hooked.

You can listen at double, sometimes triple the speed. Depending on the content and the reader, this does nothing to stifle your comprehension.
(I typically don’t like to go too fast with fiction books––1.75x at the most.)

Laying down with your headphones in. Cleaning. Cooking breakfast. These are great ways to knock out chunks of audiobooks.

4) Get an online library card.

Person reading with a Kindle

And a Kindle.

With this, you can borrow an endless supply of eBooks and audiobooks for completely free.

Connect your online card number to Libby, and you can place holds on what you want to read or listen to.

Since getting my Kindle and library card, I have read over 30 books in 3 months…without paying a cent.

5) Read with a pen or visual pacer.

A book and a pen on a desk

If you leave it up to the voice in your head to set the pace, you can only read as quickly as you speak.

With a visual tracker like a pen, you force your eyes to move well above that rate.

6) Get a GoodReads account.

GoodReads––Meet your next favorite book

GoodReads is a social media that doesn’t rot your brain.

It’s a great way to connect with friends to see what they’re reading, what they think about what they’re reading, and what they want to read. It will also recommend books to you based on what you’ve enjoyed in the past.

My favorite feature though is the ability to set challenges for yourself (e.g. 20 books in 2021). This is like a subtle form of accountability. I liked that people could see that I was reading a shit ton of books. It made me read even more.

Tell me I’m good.

That’s it.

Girl sitting down in a library reading a book

There’s not really any magic to it. Just sit down and read.

I don’t think you have to read anything you don’t want to, but I firmly believe that everyone could benefit from making it a consistent part of their lives. It makes me feel sharper, more articulate, and more aware of the world I live in.

Whether it’s People magazine, The Lord of the Rings, or 50 Shades of Grey…get out there and start reading.


‘Getting Things Done’ Review

(From GoodReads)

I think I need to stop saying that books have changed my life so frequently. My friends seem to be more hesitant when I recommend they read what I just read. But Getting Things Done has changed my life like no other, simply because I have actually been implementing the system since I picked up the book.

By doing so, I have had nothing but a crystal clear understanding of all the things I need and want to get done, which eliminates 95% of the stress.

The most impactful concept is this: We have anywhere from 30-150 inputs at any given time. To-dos, tasks, obligations, things to learn, calls, meetings, events. The human memory is terrible. Yet we shame ourselves for not being able to perfectly organize and structure all 150 of these inputs in our heads.

We have to Capture everything. Everyyythingg. By simply writing down each and every thing I have coming up (from “Donate box of books to bookstore,” to “Choose new primary color for website homepage…” The simple art of defining each Project into clear, actionable steps has lifted all the weight off my shoulders.

At the heart of the GTD process, you must create a system which you accurately and constantly Capture all your inputs, and then you regularly review that system (weekly).

This all might sound super robotic, especially for the go-with-the-flow types. David makes it very clear though:

GTD is not about getting more things done necessarily. It’s about having a harmonious, stress-free relationship with the things you want to accomplish.”

Just Keep Reading

This morning, I finished the tome that is Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix.

Although the series is an incredibly fun and easy read, there were times during this 870-page novel where I naturally felt I would never make it to the end.

This is my curse when reading long books. No matter how aware I am that I will surely finish them, there’s always a piece of doubt in my mind.

As most things do, this made me think about how it applies to life.

The difference between making it from page 451 to 452 is almost nothing in the grand scheme of things. But if you just keep reading, in no time you’ll look back and realize how far you’ve come.

I see most of my days like reading a page in an infinitely large book. I often feel frustration when I feel like I’m either not moving quickly enough or when I feel like what I’m doing isn’t getting me any closer to where I want to go.

The solution is the same for both the literal and the metaphor:

Just keep going.

Whether it takes you a day or it takes you a year…if you just keep going, you’ll have no choice but to get to where you want to be.

I’m in Love

For about 8 years, I have been adamantly opposed to eReaders, Kindles, or eBooks of any kind. The feel of a real book in my hands and the look of a shelf full of books were qualities I was convinced I would never want to sacrifice.

Yesterday, my first ever Kindle came in the mail. Holy shit…see title.

I’ll always appreciate the aesthetics of a full and vibrant bookshelf, but here are the immediate benefits I experienced:

It’s compact and lightweight so it’s effortless to hold and read in every possible laying and standing position.

• Its front light allows me to read in the dark; which I absolutely love just before bed. No more trying to find the right lighting for the page without being burdened by the same light.

• I connected my Kindle to my library and GoodReads. This allows me to borrow (for 21 days) a plethora of eBooks and audiobooks for totally free. You just place a hold on whichever book you’re interested in if it’s not available quite yet. It is all instantaneous. GoodReads also saves the highlights you make in each book you read.

• Which reminds me, you can fucking highlight and make notes! I cover my books in pen: ideas, notes, reminders, suggestions, diary-like entries at the end of chapters…With a Kindle, you can do all of this without marking up a book, decreasing its value, and making it slightly less-enjoyable for the next reader.

I have a lot to say about technology and the evil it presents us; but I have just as much to say about the beauty it provides our modern lives.

I was lost but now I am found. Thank you, Kindle.

Day 30: Review

30/30 – As you finish the 30-day writing challenge, what are your thoughts on it?

At first, I enjoyed the automation of writing every day. I’ve been doing it for nearly a year, but after starting a daily vlog, I figured automating the blog would be a relief.

A week into it though, I began to feel bored with writing based on someone else’s agenda. I felt there were things some mornings I wanted to write about, but couldn’t because it had nothing to do with the prompt.

I would recommend someone do some sort of challenge like this; but only to build the habit of writing every day. After that, I’d say just write whatever the hell you want to write about. A paragraph is fine. 10,000 words is fine. Just write, dammit.

On to the regular scheduled programming.

Day 27: 3 Books

27/30 – What are 3 books everyone should read and why?

The War of Art by Steven Pressfield

In this hour-long read, Pressfield masterfully illustrates why it is so hard for us to do the things we know we need to do…Resistance. It is our #1 enemy. It is why we skip the gym, why we hate sitting down to write, why we procrastinate on the projects we need to get done.

You have two lives: the life you’re living and the life you deserve to be living (i.e. the money you should be making, the relationships you want to have, the health you want to experience). The only thing standing in the way of those two lives is Resistance. It tries to kill you every day; and every day, you must unsheathe your sword and slay it like a dragon.

Deep Work by Cal Newport

Newport has an almost disturbing ability to be perfectly and mathematically articulate with his ideas and arguments. In Deep Work, he highlights the absolute necessity for long, uninterrupted, and focused work. This includes building, learning, creating, writing, etc.

With whatever we’re trying to accomplish, we rarely have a focus problem. We usually have a distraction problem. Meetings. Chit-chat. Phones. Internet. Social media. News…

To get real results, turn all that shit off, go into hiding, and enter a flow state for a few hours.

Show Your Work by Austin Kleon

It’s impossible to read this beautiful little book without a smile. If you have ever had an inkling to create anything, Kleon implores you to stop thinking and just start making shit. It may in fact be shit, but you owe it to the world to share your ideas, perspective, and creativity. If you don’t feel like you have any of those things, it’s probably because you haven’t ever tried putting it out there and developing it.

A year ago I started a YouTube channel. I had no idea what I was doing, what it would be about, or what value it would bring me or others. Today, I post daily. I get to share my ideas, and improve my storytelling abilities. It’s still super small, but I can feel myself improving and developing my voice, my style, and my rhythm. Start creating. It’ll be terrifying for a million different reasons; but a year from now, you’ll be glad you started today.

Double Your Reading Speed in 12 Minutes

Not shitting you. This works. It will take practice, which loses a lot of people. But who wouldn’t want to double their reading speed (without losing comprehension)??

  1. Read comfortably(using your finger or a visual pacer) for 4 minutes. Set a timer and read as you normally would. When the timer goes off, mark where you stopped with a pencil.

  2. Now, set your alarm for 3 minutes. (Again using a visual pacer) Try to reach where you stopped at step 1 before the 3 minutes are up

  3. Set your alarm for 2 minutes. This time, don’t worry about comprehension Try to get to that same point in 2 minutes. Go line by line and have your eyes follow your visual pacer as fast as possible.

  4. Set your timer for 1 minute. Same thing. Don’t skip and lines and don’t worry about comprehension at all. Just follow the pacer with your eyes line by line as fast as you can to get to the same ending point.

  5. Chill. Set your timer for 2 minutes again. Start from where you made the pencil mark. Read comfortably with your visual pacer for 2 minutes with comprehension. Count the number of lines you read, multiply that by the amount of words per line (add up the words from three lines then divide by three to average them out), then divide that number by two. This is your new reading rate per minute.

    I got this from Jim Kwik’s book Limitless. It increased my reading speed by 52%.

Questions are the Answer

Our brains are wired to forget things.

In Jim Kwik’s book Limitless, he offers the 3 questions to ask in order to remember what you read; but these questions are applicable in everyday life as well:

1) How can I use this?

2) Why must I use this?

3) When will I use this?

Seven Steps to Happiness

In this order:

1) Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone

2) Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets

3) Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban

4) Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire

5) Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix

6) Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince

7) Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows


With all this free time, it’s vital that you maintain structure in your days to avoid falling off the rails.

However, this is also a great opportunity to explore creative projects. Fuck it.

Write poetry or short stories. Record your thoughts for ten minutes. Start reading that book that’s been collecting dust on your nightstand. There are no wrong choices. Just pick something and do it.

Finishing a Book

Coming up with analogies to life can be dramatic or cheesy, so forgive me…

I think many of the things we have to do in life are like books…e.g. obstacles, tasks, goals, pursuits, dreams. Some are ten pages long and can be completed with ease in a matter of minutes. Others are tomes of hundreds upon hundreds of pages. These are the ones which intimidate and repel.

But the size and density of a book says nothing about your ability to finish it…just the amount of time it will take you.

If you picked up Infinite Jest (981 pages), and read one page everyday, you would eventually finish it.

The only books which don’t get finished are the ones that sit on the shelf untouched. The same is true for your goals, dreams, pursuits, etc…