In any of the things that I do (podcast, YouTube channel, blog), my aim is not to get the most out of people. My goal is to inspire people to get the most out of themselves.
The risk of any “self-help” or “self-improvement” content (I despise both of those terms), is that it can often sound preachy and elitist. I’m constantly working on my ability to portray the fact that I’m not some perfect, disciplined, sculpted being…everything I preach applies to myself as well. This is a daily process. Each and every day, I struggle with a lack of confidence, fear of what the future holds, and consistent questioning of whether or not I’m doing things correctly. We all face these issues all the time. They never disappear.
When times were at their darkest, when I was at my lowest, I literally tried to kill myself. And I nearly succeeded. I collected a number of pain and anti-depression medication from friends and family over the span of a week, then swallowed a number of them whilst finishing a bottle of Jim Beam (ad?). I woke up two days later utterly confused and was hungover for days after.
This was years ago. And I’ve told no one until now.
Now, I experience levels of confidence and satisfaction of which I literally thought were impossible. What I try to highlight for people is that there was a journey for this transition. There’s an evolution. And you can make it happen. It’s not easy, but it is simple. It’s overwhelming. And when you ask yourself where to start, the answer is, “At the beginning.”
I mention this story because nobody likes to hear from someone who’s ripped at the gym telling someone out of shape, “Get in shape, you’ll feel great!” But that ripped dude (or gal) went through an evolution of work and insecurity and doubt. I’m just some idiot with recording equipment and a laptop. There’s nothing special about me. We’re all just human and if you have a dream, and someone else has done what you want, you can do it too. Just start at the beginning.
My aim is not to push people up the mountain. It’s to inspire people to climb it with me.
”Do you know someone you would like to change and regulate and improve? Good! That is fine. I am all in favor of it. But why not begin on yourself? From a purely selfish standpoint, that is a lot more profitable than trying to improve others—yes, and a lot less dangerous. ‘Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof,’ said Confucius, ‘when your own doorstep is unclean.’”
– Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People