A few weeks ago, one of my friends told me she was stopping by in the morning.
My insecure self began wondering if I did or said anything I needed to apologize for. Then I wondered if she just wanted me to hide her boyfriend’s Christmas gift.
She showed up with paper bags. “This is to celebrate all you’ve done.”
The night before, I got dinner with her and her partner and told them about a huge business opportunity that had just come my way.
“I’ll always buy you pastries to celebrate your wins,” she said. I hugged her.
Normally, gifts aren’t my love language (they’re quality time and words of affirmation). But food is a different story.
Aside from being wildly appreciative to have a tribe of friends who support me and want the best for me, my insight was this:
It really doesn’t take much to express that.
That food was delicious, but she could’ve also just said, “I’m really proud of you and happy to see you working toward what you want.” It would’ve meant just as much.
It sparked a question for me to ask consistently.
What’s the simplest thing I can do to make this person I love feel heard, cared for, or supported?
The answer is never anything complex or demanding.